Miriam speaks of her healing journey. I have been very busy and it’s all been a bit too much. So I missed my post yesterday. But slowly I heal.
It’s been three days of anxiety because I have had appointments and it’s been my birthday. First I went out with a friend, then I had people come over, then my daughter had a dentist appointment and today I have a doctor’s appointment. All stressful and anxiety builders. My way to cope is to block everything out, do what I have to do, stay calm and just get it done and get home. My safe place is home. But now at home all I am doing is reading. My anxiety is so high that I can’t concentrate on anything else. And I don’t do anything else but read. It would be good to do some mindfulness I think. So I’ll try this afternoon. Maybe I’ll stop blocking then and try to heal. It’s just been too much.
But slowly I heal. I have less anxiety about going out or having people over. I use positive counter statements to help. And now I believe in the positive counter statements more than my fears which is good. Slowly I heal.
Miriam now speaks of her day. A day of healing.
I went out with a good friend today…I can say my best friend now. We haven’t seen each other since before Christmas. It took all my courage to face my anxiety and fears and just do it! It was a gift to myself. I was sort of numb inside but I did it. And nothing bad happened! We were alright and spent an enjoyable lunch together.
I had been painting for my daughters and thought of her often because I had promised to paint a portrait of her dog. She had four paintings/drawings to choose from and chose two pastels. One was with the old technique I use and one was with a new paper and therefore a new technique. I was surprised she liked the new technique but she said it had a softer quality to it. It was done with U-art paper. So thinking of her I finished all the portraits and invited her out for lunch. She treated me too but that’s another story.
The important thing is that I faced another fear today with courage. I am slowly digging deep and realizing that yes I do have courage. My counselor told me to make a paper mache mask of a warrior. Which I am doing now. It had to dry. Now I’m ready to paint it. I’ll paint gems on it too!
Until next time…
Miriam’s Art is pleased to release her Running Cheetah pastel painting. It was a challenge to paint. Painting helped soothe her anxiety. Enjoy!
The power of the cheetah is seen in the bunched muscles of this lesser cat. The challenge was to know where the muscles were. The yellow brown of the cheetah contrasts well with the beige of the background. Pieces of stone thrown up in the air give this painting more depth.
The cheetah is the fastest animal in the world. It can reach speeds of 70 mph (110 km/h) which is the speed of a car. It takes a cheetah just three seconds to reach it’s maximum speed. I painted this painting because of the sheer power of the cat that it portrays. I am in awe of the cheetah’s power. Cheetah’s are dangerously close to extinction as can be seen in this post.
Painting soothes my anxiety. I loose myself in the painting. While you are painting the subconscious works on what is bothering you and helps you deal with it.
Painting the cat was difficult because of the spots and the muscle layers. I will be doing a graphite drawing next of a cheetah and will really concentrate on the different muscle groups. The beige in the background was easy to lay down. The pebbles were a bit tricky as was the dark of the dirt that’s been pushed up off the ground.
This is an approximately 12×18″ painting. Please see the shop now option and click on portfolio if you are interested in purchasing it! Enjoy!
Today Miriam talks of her meeting with her counselor. They talked of courage and women that were heroes. Miriam also started doing mindfulness sessions again.
My counselor and I talked of heroes. I don’t know many heroes. I thought of movie characters like Eowyn of Lord of the Rings or Laura Croft of Tomb Raiders. Then I tried to think of other heroes. One was Madame Cure because she won a Nobel Peace Prize. Then I thought of Mahala the Afghan young women that stood up for education of women and was shot by the Taliban in her own country. My counselor knew her name. Then my counselor suggested Nujood Ali who obtained a divorce from an arranged marriage at the age of ten. Both of Mahala and Nujood have written a book. I will be buying Nujood’s book soon. So all of these women exhibited great courage to do what they did. The last two especially so because they are so young. I am courageous too. It takes a lot of courage to face my fears.
My counselor told me to make a warrior’s mask next. I will make it out of paper mache. I will paint it and paint jewels on it. It will be my mask of courage.
I had my cup of hot tea with milk afterwards. I just sat there and tried to remember the important parts of the conversation. Then I looked up Nujood’s and Mahala’s boos on Amazon. I still have to go out and get a balloon to make my mask tomorrow. And I’ll be buying Nujood’s book. Courage my friend. Heal my friend heal!
I couldn’t read. I just needed some time to think. And instead of painting I did some mindfulness. The stilling of the mind to listen and concentrate on your breath. A time of healing. I also listened to the introduction to yoga. I am going to try and do yoga every morning before I start my day.
I am facing a new fear and I am using the chart below. Slowly I am exposing myself to that fear repeatedly and as I do so, my initial fear subsides. Slowly I heal.
Until Thursday…take care!
Miriam’s Art is pleased to release her Pet Portrait pastel painting. I painted this portrait at a time of mixed feelings. Art can be very therapeutic. Slowly I heal.
The eyes of the great dane draw the attention of the viewer. The light and dark grey hues of this magnificent dog contrast well with the blue background. The white of the muzzle contrasts well with the black of the nose. The muscular body shows the size of the dog.
I had mixed feelings while painting this portrait. Joy and fear. I was dealing with one of my fears. I felt joy thinking of the friend that I painted this portrait for. I am looking forward to seeing her. Painting helps to soothe anxiety and can bring joy at the same time.
The blue reflection in the eye drew the attention of the viewer as did the white reflections. The background was a lot of work. I lightened it to the right as you would in a proper portrait. The shades of grey were difficult to do properly. Yet I had to go back over it and make the darker greys more prominent. The slight blue hue on the dog is appealing to the eye and brings harmony to the portrait.
This item is a gift for a friend. I do paint pet portraits if you are interested. Dog, cat, horse, lizard or rat. This is a 12×18″ original pastel painting. It would be more expensive framed. However I matte the picture when I frame it. Internationally it would be better to ship the unframed painting.
Miriam speaks of a new relaxation technique. It can be used at home or in a park when you are feeling stressed. I also include a couple of variations to it. (Photo by Nathan Anderson on Unsplash)
Lately I have been feeling stressed. Doing a lot of things with appointments, sometimes more than one per day and two days in a row. This causes anxiety for me.
The relaxation technique is as follows. Sit in a comfortable position on something comfortable and think of a river in the forest. Now find a rock beside the river and sit down. As you are sitting there you notice leaves floating on the river. Many leaves. Pick one up and put a worry onto it. Now place it back in the stream and watch it float away with your worry. Pick up another leaf and place a different worry on the leaf. Place it back in the stream and watch it float away. Keep doing this with your worries. Sometimes you may see a group of leaves stuck together. Pick one up and look at the worry. As you do this watch all the other worries wash away. Place your leaf in the stream and watch it wash away all the way down the stream. Be still. Think of the stream and all your worries are gone!
A variation to this relaxation technique is to fill balloons with your worry and then release them all into the air. And your worries are gone. Or fill train box cars with your worries and then watch the train leave and all your worries go with it.
I have decided to incorporate a twenty minute mindfulness session into my day twice a week. Then I may do it three times a week. But at first I want to get a routine going. At the same time I can watch my thoughts and see what my mind is worried about. Watch my thoughts and figure out what is bothering me.
Until next time…enjoy your evening!
Miriam speaks quickly of her healing journey. I am writing the story about me fighting evil. It is therapeutic. I have redesigned my shield, sword and dagger. Slowly I heal.
I have redesigned my shield, sword and dagger with black onyx stone, rose quartz stone and amethyst stone.
Black onyx stone is a grounding, strengthening and centering stone. It strengthens you when you are challenged and weak. It eases your fears when they are the strongest and banishes negativity. Rose quart raises self esteem and gives you a strong sense of worth. It is the heart or love stone. Amethyst enhances psychic powers and protects travellers. So in adding the stones I am adding to the strength and magic of my shield, sword and dagger.
I have bought myself a stone similar to black onyx. A grounding and centering stone to wear every day. I have also bought rose quarts and amethyst. I even have an amethyst bracelet to wear on days to heighten my meditative powers. I have decided to start at least one half hour of mindfulness per day. I need to center my thoughts so as to watch what is affecting me or what my mind is wanting me to work on.
I wrote a bit about fighting against Owen…the one who represents evil in my story. I haven’t been able to write much and I haven’t defeated him. The men who protect me and I battle against Owen and his men to protect men, women and children from him and to protect ourselves.
Slowly I heal…
Miriam’s Art is pleased to exhibit her Elephant watercolor painting. It is World Watercolor Month! She painted this elephant at a time of moderate stress. It soothed her anxious mind.
The glint on the dark grey elephant’s eye immediately draws the viewers attention. The eye contrasts well with the different hues of grey of the elephants face, ear and partial trunk. The dark ridges of the elephants skin contrast well with the surrounding grays. The stark white of the elephant’s tusk contrasts well with the surrounding grays. The gray elephants ear in the the background and the white tusk is in the foreground. The overall grey of the elephant is very attractive.
I painted at a time when I was facing my fear of going for a walk. I saw a suspicious man who made me fear. The thought that they aren’t after me soothed that fear. Painting helped my subconscious deal with that fear. It also prepared me for painting my best friend’s dog’s portrait. As I painted for my daughter’s I thought of my friend. The fear of seeing my friend and perhaps identifying her as my friend to bad people is the next fear I’ll have to deal with as my next painting will be her dog’s portrait. I painted this painting for my daughter. If you paint for one daughter you have to paint for them all! LOL. Now they will all have some of my work framed and on their wall!
I used an initial gray wash for this painting. It worked well except for the ear. I had to work a lot around the ear to get that large light gray area. The frisket helped to keep the glint in the eye and the tusk white. The wrinkles in the trunk were relatively easy to paint dark over the lighter gray.
This painting is not for sale. It’s for my daughter who loves elephants! Enjoy!
Miriam speaks of her healing journey. I don’t have much new to say. I am facing some fears. I revamped my form that I am using. Some old fears have come up but I am doing two at a time now. My story hasn’t progressed much. But slowly I heal.
The two fears that I am facing are to go walking and taking a shower. Now you know! I am scared that bad people will follow me and identify me when I am walking. I am also scared that there are cameras in my house and that bad people are filming me. I’ve worked on the last fear logically so logically this probably isn’t the case. So I’m more relaxed about that one! In the park I saw a strange guy while I was walking. It made me nervous. I talked to my daughter and she said that there were a lot of strange people in the park and not to walk alone at night. Which I don’t do. So my fear has subsided a bit more now. Belief in the positive rational counter statement that they’re not interested in me just wasn’t doing it for me today! It helped talking about it to someone. Something I’ve never done! Whew! It’s mind blowing sometimes!
I revamped the form I am using and therefore am using only one now. It is below.
So the idea is that first you fill in the event. Then you state your emotion and rate it from 0 to 10 or 0 to 100. Then you write down the fearful thought and rate it. Then you write a positive rational counter statement as a response to that fear and rate your belief in it. Then you rerate your belief in the fearful thought and in the subsequent emotion. Then you write a comment on what you’ve learned, if your fear increased or why you are feeling the way you are. It’s a bit complicated but when you get used to the form it works. Then you repeatedly expose yourself to your fear (if it is safe to do so) and slowly the belief in the fear decreases and your belief in the positive rational counter statement (ie. they’re not interested in you) goes up! And in my case you feel more relief. Try it maybe and please tell me if it works for you. I am interested!
My counselor told me to write a story about me (she said it could be someone else but I’m going to leave the main character as me) fighting evil and winning. I should have written some today but people were home so I didn’t have the privacy to do it. I’ll keep you posted. The idea is that I battle the evil and win!
All in all I have had a good day! I’ve taken care of myself twice today. I went for a walk and had a shower! Not much to some people but for me it’s a big deal! I feel good! That reminds me of a favorite song. Until next time…